Comments on: A Simple But Life-Changing Question: Are You In Danger?

By: Chris Edgar

Chris Edgar — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 18:32:34 +0000

Hi Barbara — I like that idea — really taking the question “what’s the worst that could happen” seriously, and recognizing that even the worst-case scenario usually isn’t a serious threat.

By: Barbara Swafford

Barbara Swafford — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 06:41:01 +0000

Hi Chris,

That’s a great question to ask, and it certainly changes the perspective of who we might think of as a big problem.

Another thing I will ask myself is, “what’s the worse that can happen”. I seriously try and figure that out and often realize “it’s not the end of the world” .

Great post, Chris.

By: Chris Edgar

Chris Edgar — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 16:15:14 +0000

Hi Robin — yes, being with family members definitely seems high on the list of situations that put us in “survival mode,” and I think remembering that we aren’t in danger helps us to actually appreciate our loved ones rather than defending ourselves against them.

By: Robin

Robin — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 10:30:45 +0000

It’s certainly an interesting question to ask oneself. Situations of family conflict spring to mind when I think about this just now, and reminding myself I am not in danger then – when I am not heard, for example – could be very beneficial. Thanks for this, Chris.

By: Chris Edgar

Chris Edgar — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 15:20:26 +0000

Hi Ian — getting connected with the here and now is a good way to put it, I think — so often we’re reacting to imaginary future danger and losing sight of our safety right now.

By: Ian | Quantum Learning

Ian | Quantum Learning — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 09:32:27 +0000

Chris .. this is a truly wonderful question.

So simple and so powerful. I’m asking myself this question right now (I’m feeling a bit stressed about an upcoming visit to the doctor), and it certainly is a huge help to get connected with here and now. Thanks so much for this!

By: Chris Edgar

Chris Edgar — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 18:15:39 +0000

Hi Stacey — yes, I imagine this would especially be a calming question for parents about to get on airplanes with their kids and in similar situations.

By: Stacey / Create a Balance for Moms

Stacey / Create a Balance for Moms — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 04:32:54 +0000

Great question. It reminds me of what I ask myself, which is “statically, will I (or my kids, or my family, etc) be okay”…and 95% percent of the time the answer if YES.

By: Chris Edgar

Chris Edgar — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 18:21:54 +0000

We’re all about mutual admiration in the personal development blogosphere. I suppose we could anonymously hate on each other as is done on the majority of the Internet but thinking up criticisms of people requires too much thought and energy for me.

By: Jannie Funster

Jannie Funster — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 17:50:45 +0000

Nothing like good ol’ mutual admiration and adding value to peoples’ lives!