Comments on: Embracing Your Power To Walk Away http://purposepowercoaching.com/site/2008/04/30/embracing-your-power-to-walk-away/ Productivity, Mindfulness and Spirituality Wed, 01 Feb 2012 21:33:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: admin http://purposepowercoaching.com/site/2008/04/30/embracing-your-power-to-walk-away/comment-page-1/#comment-499 admin Fri, 16 May 2008 21:00:13 +0000 http://www.purposepowercoaching.com/site/?p=99#comment-499 Hi Mark -- thanks for your kind comments. I looked up the De Mello story and it reminded me a lot of Alice Miller's discussion of what "love" between parents and children really is in many cases -- for the children it's fear and obedience of the parents, and for the parents it's a desire to live vicariously through the kids. I'm glad there are authors out there who are willing to address this issue. -- Best, Chris Hi Mark — thanks for your kind comments. I looked up the De Mello story and it reminded me a lot of Alice Miller’s discussion of what “love” between parents and children really is in many cases — for the children it’s fear and obedience of the parents, and for the parents it’s a desire to live vicariously through the kids. I’m glad there are authors out there who are willing to address this issue. — Best, Chris

]]> By: Personal Power Unleashed http://purposepowercoaching.com/site/2008/04/30/embracing-your-power-to-walk-away/comment-page-1/#comment-485 Personal Power Unleashed Fri, 16 May 2008 09:43:01 +0000 http://www.purposepowercoaching.com/site/?p=99#comment-485 Hi Chris, Found you via: http://www.improvedlife.ca/content/ninth-edition-carnival-improving-life Great post! Even at 47 now I encounter situations that seem to relate to childhood experiences around loss or humiliation (real and imaginary.) One very comforting book that presents itself like a slap in the face (!) is "Awareness" by the late Father Anthony De Mello. On page 10 of my paperback edition a woman told Father Anthony of a conference speech which opened with the fine sounding words: "The test of love is sacrifice, and the gauge of love is unselfishness." To which, he replies: "That's marvelous... (but) would you want me to love you at the cost of my happiness?" The "slap" comes from what the lady's next words are - and how Anthony De Mellow responds. Well worth reading a dozen times just for that one story! Regards Mark McClure Japan Hi Chris,

Found you via:
http://www.improvedlife.ca/content/ninth-edition-carnival-improving-life

Great post! Even at 47 now I encounter situations that seem to relate to childhood experiences around loss or humiliation (real and imaginary.)

One very comforting book that presents itself like a slap in the face (!) is “Awareness” by the late Father Anthony De Mello.

On page 10 of my paperback edition a woman told Father Anthony of a conference speech which opened with the fine sounding words:

“The test of love is sacrifice, and the gauge of love is unselfishness.”

To which, he replies:
“That’s marvelous… (but) would you want me to love you at the cost of my happiness?”

The “slap” comes from what the lady’s next words are – and how Anthony De Mellow responds.

Well worth reading a dozen times just for that one story!

Regards
Mark McClure
Japan

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